In the modern day, fast changing dynamic world, one of the most discussed topics is Independence-Independence at home, at workplace, in society, in social media networks etc.

What does independence really mean to me??? It seems to me that independence is not really limited to only freedom, but it means much beyond that. It is an enigmatic and cryptic word which is difficult to interpret, understand and with many hidden meanings and aspects within itself.

The first and foremost is the “Personal independence” which helps to find yourself, think for yourself, doing what is right for yourself, loyalty to one’s best self and principles. In my opinion, it is the ability to form one’s own opinions and beliefs, critical thinking and analyzing rather than just being judgemental. Independence at home is on the whole yet another talk of the town especially among the younger generations. Enjoying every sip of “liquid hug to the brain”, that is, a cup of coffee or tea in the most comfortable place and position at your home without having to hesitate about what others think about you, eating your meals the way you want no matter you make noise while chewing with open mouth or while licking your fingers after having a feast, leaving a wet towel on the bed, leaving the newspaper after reading it on the table without having to fold it, keeping a bottle of water uncapped after drinking are few trivial things but often having a significant and hidden impact on one’s routine life. Personal independence doesn’t compel one to perform any task in a close-knit setting with rigid rules.

A very less talked about facet of independence is that of “Emotional independence”. In my opinion, it helps you to regulate your own emotions and maintain a sense of self-reliance, self-worth and happiness without being dependent on external factors like people, situations, or possessions. It makes you a better and stronger individual to meet, solve and be with any circumstance you face. Emotional independence also helps you to practice self-care which is essential for nurturing your physical health and mental and emotional well-being. It is rightly said that “the best place to find a helping hand is at the end of your own arm”.

Another crucial aspect especially for a woman is the “Financial independence”-being able to afford what I want without bothering or being dependent on anyone. It serves as a source of self-confidence and allows a woman to plan for her future without having to rely on others and ultimately leading to a more fulfilling life. It is truly said that “A women’s best protection is a little money of her own”. Freedom to save for emergencies, investing for yourself, retirement planning, paying off debts and negotiating for a decent salary are few of the examples of financial independence.

In the digital age, “Digital independence” is the need of the hour. It involves exploring the online world, critically assessing the information, identity biases, protecting your privacy and security. Independence is living each day to the fullest, not regretting about anything at the end of the day, being able to fall asleep within a few minutes of closing your eyes and with a sense of gratification in your heart and soul.

Another important element of independence is Psychological independence where one is liberated from the constant worry and potential misery of trying to guess what others think, leading to greater peace of mind. One can live according to their true self, make choices that align with their values, rather than seeking external approval. I believe that psychological independence is of paramount importance as it is impossible to please everyone and at all times. It enables us to face all the criticism and continue on our chosen path despite challenges. It teaches us to accept ourselves the way we are, embrace our flaws as well as our uniqueness without waiting for any external approvals. The freedom to attend any function without trying to hide your facial blemishes by applying an inch of makeup, the freedom to post your photograph anywhere in the social platform without having to apply any kind of filters, a bride’s freedom to get her degrees printed on her wedding invitation without having to think about the groom’s qualification are few of the examples of psychological independence. I also feel that psychological independence is the freedom to express yourself without giving a second thought of what the other person in front thinks about you or frames an opinion about you.

I strongly believe that independence is a valuable gift and a hidden treasure. Therefore, it is of utmost importance to take care that we do not forget our responsibility while enjoying independence. At the same time, we are responsible for the consequences of the choices we make. Independence is pursuing a life of peaceful endeavors in our own way while being responsible for what we do and so long as we do not attempt to deprive others of theirs or impede their efforts to obtain it. Responsibility is an indispensable part of independence, and they go hand in hand. From my perspective, independence without being responsible and without a proper guidance is like “a kite without its strings”. It can lead to a chaotic, uncontrolled and unsuccessful life. A necessary balance between independence and responsibility must be ensured.

Not but not the least, to me, the day when gadgets become our slaves, employment discrimination against LGBTQ community ends, women are not judged by their dresses, bribing and corruption ends, a woman reaches her home safely even at odd hours of the day is Independence!!!